Not Caring is Double the Work

Inner confidence is so powerful, but it doesn’t necessarily make a person immune to all the negative things said about him/her. I’ve personally figured out that self-love and confidence correlate to putting effort into not giving much thought to what others think of me. It’s hard and even impossible to simply not care, which is why I force myself to put negative thoughts and words out of my mind. Boys, girls, and even adults have said degrading things about my body, attacking flaws I never even knew existed.

Their words hurt, and sometimes I let it get to me. But I always found a way (sometimes calling a friend or going on a walk) to take those negative thoughts out and move on with my life. That’s the thing about life, it keeps moving forward whether you like it or not. I had a choice: move on with things, or waste time overthinking that mean “roast” from Brad. One way or another, to move on I needed to consciously put an effort into not caring about other people’s opinions. I wish it was easier said than done, but not caring requires a lot of work. By putting a lot of effort to ignore mean words, moving on and radiating confidence/happiness becomes second nature.